Have you ever had one of those days when you make choices based on the way you are already feeling? You know one of those days where you are already feeling down so you might as well……..

I am a pretty positive person, love what I do and set my own schedule for the most part and yet I still have those days. Sometimes it may seem that some people “have it all together” and are so positive and upbeat that everyday is great, but every now and then everyone has days they just do not feel great.

Some days just don’t feel great and here’s the kicker, we tend to do things that increase our negative feelings! That’s right, the things we do to get by on those days can actually keep us feeling down.

How many times have you been feeling down and decided you might as well wear the outfit you do not really like? Because let’s face it, you are already feeling bad anyway? How many times have you decided to have dessert or an extra helping because you were already feeling down anyway? Or, how many times have you skipped your workout…because let’s face it, you are already feeling down anyway? Maybe you have avoided answering a call from a bill collector that makes you feel bad, so you avoid it again, making yourself feel worse. I could keep going on here, but I think you are getting the idea.

Although when you are feeling this way, the actions you are taking seem like the easy ones they really are not. They are making it much harder for you. They are making it harder for you to feel better and harder to treat yourself the way you deserve to be treated.

Immediately changing everything may seem overwhelming and usually is. Trying to think positive when you are feeling this way may seem Pollyannaish and silly. When this mood arrives for whatever reason, it is important to first acknowledge that you do not feel 100% and that you may need to give yourself a little extra care and understanding.

Here are a few things that work for me –

I give up the idea that everything has to be “perfect”

I wear one of my favorite outfits that makes me feel great!
(as a side note I donate all outfits I do not like or that I do not feel good in)

I try to break things I need to do into small jobs even cleaning the kitchen is broken down to one counter at a time so nothing is overwhelming

I call on my support system that builds me up and makes me feel good and I NEVER call anyone that I know may bring me down or make me feel bad

Those are a few of my things that work. PLEASE comment and share yours too! AND STAY tuned for the next video blog I have decided to GET REAL since guys do not have to get all made up and do it just right to make video blogs why do us girls?

Is it possible to be positively angry?

While anger itself may not be a positive experience, it is possible to deal with it in a way that creates a positive experience for you

Anger does not happen often for me and up until last week, believing myself to be a rather positive enlightened consciousness seeking individual here is how I would deal with it: deny it, rationalize it away, demean it, admonish myself to “get over it” and even feel guilty about my “negative” feelings.

After all, believing in the Law of Attraction…wouldn’t I attract more negatives by acknowledging it? I considered anger a negative feeling and did my best to avoid it.

Turns out the famous quote “What you resist persists” is so true.

I know that when I have fear I accept it, honor it, verbalize it, and even love myself for being aware of it, then like magic it begins to dissipate. Yet fear was a normal feeling to have…anger was not.

Then I had one of those amazing growing opportunities that was not without the common growing pains.

Last week someone I respected, trusted and cared about was completely dishonest when speaking with me. My inner guidance knew it, but I admonished myself….if I believe in unconditional love and friendship how could I doubt them?

Well when I discovered the truth, quite by accident, I found myself….you guessed it ANGRY!

And I encountered a tremendous internal struggle…deny it, admonish myself yet again, what exactly do I think unconditional means…how could I be angry? After all, I was responsible for believing them. An enlightened person would not have a negative emotion like anger, would they?

I also told them how I felt which just added to my self admonishment….how could I have done something so “unenlightened”?

Wasn’t being angry just my ego speaking anyway?

I began to question, was I not who I thought I was?

Important point here — It is in the denial of our self that our unhappiness comes. It is in the acceptance of our whole self that we blossom.

Every time I tried to surpress my feelings, it felt worse. It also created the crushing “why” questions in my thoughts which solved nothing.

Realizing that this was not working for me, I was in no way feeling even an ounce better as time passed. I had to make a personal change.

I decided to respect my feeling and be honest with myself. I felt hurt and angry and it did not feel good. I accepted that telling them how I felt was a part of being honest with myself and them as well.

Guess what? Like magic….the anger and painful feelings began to dissipate without any struggle.

What had been confusion and pain became inspiration and motivation and it felt GOOD!

I acknowledged and accepted my responsibility to the situation and to myself. It did not mean it was ok to want to return the hurt, seek revenge, or be dishonest to anyone else or any other unenlightened response.

By denying my feelings, I was being dishonest with myself. It meant accept, respect, and honor myself and the door to move on becomes wide open.

I stopped resisting my feelings just because it was not a good one.

If you do not allow yourself your negative feelings you can never truly feel the “dizzying heights” of your positive feelings.

The Rest of the Important Point — It is in the denial of our self that our unhappiness comes. It is in the acceptance of our whole self that we blossom.

It was after all a positive experience and I really am the person I thought I was.