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Who is the Bully Now?

We hear a lot about bullying in the news these days and we probably all experienced bullying growing up or at least witnessed it. You may worry about it happening to your kids. You know how horrible it can make someone feel and the devastating effect it can have on how one feels about themselves and their ability to accomplish things.

But I wonder are you letting someone bully you now? Possibly someone you know very well, maybe your very own self?

With taunts like…

No one will buy from you.

You do not know enough to do that.

You look awful today.

Why haven’t you lost weight yet? You just can’t do it.

You are not good enough for that.

Why even try, you know you failed before.

You are not smart enough for that.

You cannot do it as good as ______.

It is all your fault.

If only you had _______.

What do you think, are you allowing a different type of bullying as an adult?

Isn’t it time we stopped tolerating this kind of bullying too?

 

 

Have You Challenged Yourself Today?

Challenges are not just about things happening that we don’t like. When is the last time you challenged yourself to do something you haven’t done, step out a little further, think a little bigger.

Recently I challenged myself to give up caffeine and it was a major challenge for me. I struggled through days of headaches not to mention the desire just to drink a cup of tea. I normally drank six to twelve cups of tea a day so it was not a small habit, many times I was tempted to give up and not see it through. I could even think of several “reasons” it was better if I just went ahead and drank the tea. I didn’t though and I am thankful for that. It has been weeks now, my headaches are gone, my blood pressure has gotten even lower, and my energy even higher just for starters. The challenge was a big one that was definitely worth it.

Challenges do not always have to be big though, any challenge to do something more than you did the day before can lead to a bigger impact or a healthier life.

So how about you, how can you challenge yourself today?

How Do the Little Things Make Such A Big Difference?

Just returning from attending an event hosted by Dixie “Dynamite” Gillaspie in St. Louis this weekend I sat down to catch up on some of my favorite blogs and read the following phrase: “quite often it’s the obscure things that we do…that we don’t even notice…that are meaningful and memorable to others…” this saying, from one of my new favorite blogs by Jane Carroll, a dear and inspiring friend, really got me to thinking about the weekend and an incredible thing that happened. It seemed like such a small thing unfolding, kind of like the phrase above, it really wasn’t a part of the big picture, yet it made a huge impact.

One of the other attendees had spoken with one of the presenters, Tom Ruwitch, who happened to remember meeting him just over two years ago. Tom being the amazing person he is started the conversation by asking about the project he had been working on at that time. Yes, Tom remembered the details of a project of someone he had not seen or spoken with in over two years. In fact, the attendee himself had actually forgotten the project. Today, he was at a point where he was struggling with how to put together what he was doing with what he loved, that was one of his motivations for even attending this event. Once Tom reminded him of the project it was a total lightbulb moment; he now knew exactly how it all fit together and what he wanted to do. His vision had returned, he was excited and completely focused. Amazing isn’t it? Something so small as remembering a detail about the other person totally impacted their life.

This had nothing to do with what Tom was presenting on, his specialty is marketing, yet Tom wasn’t thinking about himself or what was in it for him. Two years ago when he met the attendee he took the time to really listen for a few seemingly insignificant moments and those few moments would eventually make a tremendous impact.

Sometimes it’s the little things we do that make the biggest difference, has this ever happened to you?

You Gotta Let Go of the Goal

On Sunday I was rollerblading, I had a goal of how far I wanted to go, I could see my goal destination, it was further than I had ever gone, as most goals are. I was hot, it was a long way and I started thinking about how hard it would be to get there. As I looked at it so far away I decided to focus on the journey. I might not make it all the way but I could do my best, get some great exercise and enjoy the time I had. I started to notice the breeze, the water was gorgeous, runners, walkers, and bicyclists passed and I loved the sunshine.  I was enjoying every minute and it didn’t seem like effort.

Before I knew it I was almost to my goal, I got excited, I had made it farther than I imagined and it didn’t seem that hard. I started to glide, I knew I would make it and for a moment, I took my attention off what I was doing and I was looking only at my goal. Then it happened, a big bump between sidewalks caught both my roller blades and sent me down in a  front body slam to the sidewalk. My hands went up in time that I landed full on my left hand and chest with the wind knocked out of me. Luckily I didn’t hit my knees or face. It hurt, it hurt bad, but I wasn’t hurt bad.

As I sat there on the side walk I realized this goal was just like any goal, if you focus only on the goal reaching it becomes much harder than it has to be. When you think the goal is so big and hard it will be and you will struggle. When you focus on the journey and just keep doing what you need to do it can become enjoyable and you can get there faster than you thought. When you focus only on the goal and not on what you need to be doing you can miss pitfalls, sometimes big ones that can bring you down.

Goals are tremendously important, but focusing only on the goal can actually keep you from reaching it. Has that ever happened to you?

 

What Happens When You Fail?

So many things we don’t try for fear of failing. Often getting caught up in the what ifs.

This week Diana Nyad “failed” to accomplish her goal of being the first to swim from Cuba to Florida without a shark cage.

This was no small goal, Diana is 61 years old, it took two years of planning and training and many people involved to make it happen. Her journey is totally inspiring.

 

When we imagine failing to reach our goal we often imagine the absolute worst situation. Her attitude after ending this quest is as inspiring as the journey itself. I was brought to tears at the end of this video, when Diana is not at all caught up in what was her journey or goal, she is busy supporting others around her, she is one amazingly courageous woman!

Did she fail? Her goal was to swim from Cuba to Florida and she didn’t accomplish that, she did however accomplish so many things that would not have happened otherwise; it shows just how much success can come from failing. While she may feel disappointment at not reaching the goal, the biggest disappointment would be in never having tried.  Accomplishing a goal is not always about just reaching the goal even when you do. It is about the person you become in order to reach it and all the impact you make in working toward it.  What will you step out and do?

Seven Ways to Get More Out of Giving It Away Free

The question of why give away information free and how much should be given often comes up for entrepreneurs, coaches and consultants. This week I was talking with a client who was discouraged because she had been doing free workshops and felt too many people were taking advantage of the freebie and nothing more. She was considering no longer giving away anything free, although she was getting paying business from the workshops too. Unfortunately that is the conclusion many draw when they offer something free and it does not work, that they get taken advantage of when they give something away free and they shouldn’t do it.

Giving it away free is a strategy that can and does work brilliantly, just ask Seth Godin who does it with his new Domino Project. He certainly does not have too, he already has many bestselling books, the credibility and the tribe built to sell pretty much anything.  It can also work brilliantly for any entrepreneur; it may take time to figure out the best method for you and your products or services.

Here are a few tips that can help you get more out of giving it away free.

It is your sales call – every business needs sales, view your free giveaway as your sales call. It is an easy way to stop making cold calls and generate a lot of warm calls.

You can still sell it – just because you use the information as part of a free giveaway, whether it is a free report, free teleseminar or workshop does not mean you cannot also use that information again. That same information can be used and most likely expanded on in other programs.

Use it as an interest test – test different free offers to track client interest. I have changed free offers and seen interest double in the exact same program. It can help you gauge interest for developing new programs, try something as a freebie, if there is big interest chances are it will do well as a full-blown program.

Always make them want more – Don’t give everything away. Don’t give so much away that the potential client wants no more. Leave them wanting more information.

Always have a Call to Action – this is a BIG ONE! Often I see a freebie intended to get people on an email list which is great but that’s the end of it. Make that freebie more enticing and have a call to action at the end. Keep your prospective client moving through your programs as long as you can help them.  If you are giving a free speech or interview that you do not want to make a sales pitch, that’s great too, but don’t miss out on a chance to leave them with a call to action. If you want more specific ideas on this one simply send me an email with CALL TO ACTION in the subject line to edie@getyourcourgeon.com.

Don’t give away junk – giving away your low value items because it keeps your costs down or is easy will be seen as just that. It will not create value for you or the customer. It is a waste of time.

Know your conversion factor – it is great to giveaway a free report or eBook when asking someone to join your email address, bigger returns on bigger giveaways require strategy, planning and tracking. If you are doing a free in-person workshop to sell a five-week program you’re investing more in the giveaway.  It may be just as easy to do this with a teleseminar and save the costs.

Giving away free information gives you a chance to reach potential customers in a way nothing else does. It is a great opportunity when used wisely. Will some people take the free stuff and run, absolutely, be ready to accept some will buy and some will not! When you are doing sales calls many people will say no too, it is all a part of being in business.  Figuring out your successful strategy for giving it away free is well worth the time, effort and investment.